Here are a few tips for encouraging good dialogue with your child's teacher:
Take the opportunity to attend Parents' Evenings and Parent Teacher Interviews, even if your son is doing great in school. This is a good chance to get a glimpse of your his world and that alone is important to your son.
Attend school events ~ if your son sees you treating school as an interesting place to be, he is more likely to feel that way also.
Call the teacher when you have pressing concern, or when it isn't so pressing, write a note. Teachers appreciate feedback.
Make notes in his College Diary of things that the teacher needs to know, this can be little things like early departure or larger things such as changes at home.
Try to make contact about positive things - not just what might need attention . We all like to hear good news.
Tips for Parents
It would be great if every child were to go from childhood to full adulthood without any hitches. Many do, but most encounter the occasional physical or emotional hurdle.
Helping your Child
Even little children get the blues. If your son doesn't seem happy or is acting differently try and find out what is upsetting them. If nothing seems to work let us know, but also check with your health clinic or contact your GP.
Secondary school aged boys can be really demanding and irritable. Even if they are driving you mad, be patient and say that you know they are worried or unhappy. Under all this moodiness, there may lie lots of hidden anxiety and unhappiness.
Help your son get the best out of their school. If they seem low and don't want to go to school, try and find out why and contact us with your worries. Remember that we're here to help.
Young people need, and like, clear guidelines. Set some ground rules with your teenagers but be prepared to give and take on what they can and can't do. You'll be showing them that you are on their side.
Don't demand and expect constant love and affection from your son especially if you are feeling low and your son knows it. You could be putting too much of a burden on them and building up layers of guilt and resentment.
Conflict between couples, divorce and separation can cause a lot of anxiety amongst children of any age. Talk them through what is happening and listen to how they feel. That way you'll keep their trust and help them deal with change.
All families go through change. If your family is going through change allow people to have mixed feelings. Different family members may feel differently about the same event. Let everyone express how they feel. Feelings change in time and we can find ways of getting used to them.
Some boys like to have other trusted adults they can talk to - a grandparent, aunt or uncle, a teacher, youth worker or family friend. Don't feel threatened if they reach out to someone else